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How can I get my brother's room?

September 8th, 2010

Years ago, my older brother and I shared a room. Eventually, However, we split up and I was put into my own room, to the happiness of both of us. He kept the old room and I got what used to be my sister’s room, and my sister moved into what was the playroom with my newborn sister. Another thing I need to mention is that my sisters’ room is huge, but that is appropriate because there are two of them and they have a lot of stuff. My brother’s room is small, and mine is a bit smaller. Our house was really poorly designed. Half of the second floor is comprised of the master bedroom and bathroom, and about a fourth is my sisters’ bedroom and a bathroom that all four kids must share. So, factoring in hallways, that makes our two rooms small. This was one of the reasons that we wanted to split rooms. He got the better room of the two, but I did not mind because it was my own room I was getting. Now, years later, said brother has gone off to college and I have been promised his room. My sister would like to split up with my other sister as well, but I have dibs on my older brother’s room, which means that I will get his and she will get mine. She prefers mine anyway, for some reason.
Here’s the problem: I walk into my brother’s room and It’s full of crap. I don’t mind having some of his stuff in there (I already agreed with him that he can keep some of his books for when he comes home in one of the two shelves) But I do mind not having any room on the dresser, desk, or either or the two bookcases (which he left behind completely filled) at all in which to put my things, or having an abundance of completely filled boxes under the bed. My mom has therefore concluded that before I can move in, we need to complete a room in the unfinished basement where we can set up a room for my brother, where we can move all his stuff into and where he can sleep when he visits during Christmas break or whatever (his college is within an hour or so’s drive). Previously the plan was to put the bed in my room back in my brother’s (they are bunk beds which have been separated) and when he visits we could share rooms for a few days on the bunk beds and, as for his stuff, we didn’t exactly realize how much crap (mostly papers he refuses to get rid of, maps and conlangs and such) he owned. This is all fine and good, right? let the guy live in a new basement room, right? That could do not harm, right? WRONG. In the ten years my family has lived in this particular house, we have built three walls and half-completed a bathroom in which we installed the shower knobs backwards. the idea of me ever getting that room before I head to college myself is now slim to none, unless I want to hold off on college for about seventy years.
I really want, and in many ways need, that room. My closet is stuffed with spy-gear crap from when I was little, and my mom says I can’t go through my possessions to pick what to throw away until I move, which means until I start to move I can’t use three-fourths of my closet. My bed is tiny and the mattress is quite uncomfortable (oddly enough his bed is bigger then mine, which is weird because they are separated bunk beds… this is because the top bunk was smaller because it was designed so that little kids could more easily climb the latter, which was tilted). Another point is that my dresser is so old, and the drawers, which are not on tracks or anything, can take two minutes each to open when full (they are seldom not full, as they are so small) as opposed to his dresser which has more drawers which are bigger and easier to open and close. Also, there is an old windows 95 PC set up in there, which is lots of fun to tinker around with because it has tons (upwards of 100) of awesome old games installed on it. My brother does not technically own it but somehow it got set up in his room and he messes with all the settings and password protects it, and says that he’ll give me the password when I move in. Also, because I am an avid reader and have no room for any bookshelves in my room, The best that I can do with my collection of books is stack them atop my sad excuse for a desk if there is room (which is rare) or on the floor in neat stacks and yell at people who walk too near them. this words okay, but it’s harder to dig through books which are stacked atop each other than it is to get a book out of books held upright among one another, and over time the books that get less use sink to the bottom of the pile get all dog-eared, which is, needless to say, unacceptable. He promised me one of the bookcases in that room, which is one of the things that I look forward to most eagerly, but it’s full of books and papers and I can’t use it because, not only is it occupied, but I’m not allowed to touch anything in his room at all (it is still HIS room, you know).
Forgive my whining, but I really need his room. what can I do to make it more possible f


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OMG I Messed UP! help!?

June 18th, 2010

ok so about two weeks ago, for a week, i house sat for someone i’ve known for a couple years. i’m 17 and babysat for her since i was like 14. i know its bad, but a couple months ago i bought 2 porn dvds. i disguised them by putting the insert behind a normal movie, and the disk under the other disk (so it just looked like a regular hollywood movie). when i went to house sit, i took them with me in case my mom decided to go through my room or something. when i got to the house, i hid them on this like bookcase, setting them next to some files– you couldn’t even tell they were there.

well, since you couldn’t tell they were there, i completely forgot about them until now. i have no plans of seeing the woman to even possibly be in her house to take them back. her house is kinda cluttered so she prob won’t notice them for a while, if ever. i can’t just say hey i left some dvds, because if she opens them i’m busted. and if she says hey you left some dvds (not noticing anything is wrong) and i say yeah ill get them, and then she opens them, i’m screwed.

so what do i do?? my only option is like getting into her house when shes not there (which is easy) but i would never do anything like that and too scared too. what happens if she finds them? she recently divorced her husband and he moved out, could i blame it on him?? but she still talks to him! i would obviously deny it if she found them.. omg i don’t know what to do! help?!


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How to deal with friend's helicopter mom?

June 8th, 2010

My friend has a helicopter mom who has basically taken over their life.
My friend moved away from home when they found their first decent job a few years ago. Since then, they lost that job and went back to school to pursue a new career. Being unable to keep up the rent, my friend’s mom insisted on taking care of half the rent so my friend could concentrate on school.
However, since they started paying half the rent, my friend’s mom has basically taken over their place. They’ve removed any trace of my friend being there and replaced it with their own decor, from posters on the wall to books in the bookcase. Their mom is also extremely jealous about other females in my friend’s life, friendly or otherwise.
She claims she does this because she is looking out for my friend’s best interests and believes that females only serve to distract my friend from their path she has planned for (my friend)’s life.
She drops in unannounced and spends her time there closely scrutinizing anything my friend does, claiming whatever my friend does will reflect how people think of her.
It’s basically like my friend has never left home, even though they have their own place, my friend’s mom has made sure that her presence in their life is absolute and unquestioned.
My friend has completed school and upon passing the certification exams necessary for their new career, plans to find a new job and move out, but recently stated to me they’re worried about what their mom will do if they leave, stating that they’re unsure if she can care for herself.
Is there anything that can be done about my friend’s mom?
My friend had a discussion with his mom, and she apparently took it seriously. However, the very next day, she started acting like the conversation never occurred. When my friend asked her if she remembered the conversation, she began angrily ranting about how everyone wants to abandon her and how the world would be happier if she wasn’t in it anymore.


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How do I get dried masking tape glue off a Mahogany bookcase?

June 6th, 2010

The bookcase is about 40 years old and was being stored in my mom’s garage after my grandfather died. I finally got in to my house – Is there a solution that I can make to take the dried residue of masking tape and glue off the wood w/o stripping the finish?


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